Love yourself first! Before you can love others you need to love yourself. I don't mean a conceded love, what I mean is unconditional love or parental love. Love is the best medicine we can give ourselves. The amount that we love ourselves determines the amount we can love others. How much love do you have for yourself? Rate it between 1 and 10. Is there room for improvement? Let's look at some ways to increase that to a ten.
As a teenager I was at about 2, I had a very low self esteem. I thought I didn't know anything and was stupid. I wasn't taught how to express my negative feelings. I wasn't taught about self love, about what greatness I had within me. We all have greatness within us!
What does that little voice inside your head say about you? Is it critical of you and your actions? If you're like most people it probably is. This is human nature, accept it unconditionally. Once you accept it you can start getting it out of your way. Don't resist this voice, let those thoughts come and go. When you let them flow through your mind don't put any judgements on them. Accept them, acknowledge them, allow them to move through your mind. When you resist something it persists, so let it go.
Now you can start to change that critical voice within, to show yourself some love and compassion. You control that voice, why not show yourself some compassion. Everybody makes mistakes, we are not perfect, we are who we are. Look at mistakes as a learning experiences. Laugh off any mistakes you have made. You don't need to be critical of yourself. Make that voice a supporter of you, encourage yourself through this voice. When a critical thought comes into your mind, turn it around. Turn it into a positive statement.
Here are some quotes to keep you motivated on your path of unconditional love and growth...
Once you have learned to love, you will have learned how to live. Unknown
If you must love someone, may I suggest you love yourself? Beauty and the Beast
There is no great difference in reality between one country and another, because it is always people you meet everywhere. They may look different or be dressed differently, they may have a different education or position; but they are all the same. They are people to be loved; they are all hungry for love. Mother Teresa
The birds are molting. If only man could molt also - his mind once a year its errors, his heart once a year its useless passions. James Allen
Refuse to receive anyone's condemnation. In the independence of your own mentality, believe that you are wonderful. This is not conceit, it is the truth. Ernest Holmes
Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world. Lucille Ball